Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Woman: 5 Ways To Save Your Marriage
You Like Him, Does He Like You?
So you found him. He is an attractive man who you love to be with and you two have met a couple times. You feel comfortable around him. And you start to think of him most of the time. Now you found out that the more you met and get to know him, the more you like him.
But you are not very sure about one thing. Does he feel the way you feel? Does he like you too? He might not express what he feels. But you could find the answer by paying attention when you and him together. There are some sign to know that he interested in you.
- He shows affection by his body language. Light touch on your shoulder, put his hand on your arm when laughing, and take your hand for a short time when he ask you to walk with him. They are shows that he wants to get closer to you.
- He pays attention to your interest. He notice what you like and what you don’t like. Try to get involved with things you like and avoid what you don’t like.
- He calls you often, sometimes for no reasons. Actually he only wants to hear your voice.
- He searches for your reaction first when he says something funny and people are laughing. His eyes will flicker to you for a second to see if you laughed too.
- He gets nervous and looks another way quickly if you happened to catch him watching you.
- The very important sign is in his eyes when he looked at you. As a woman, you can feel there is something special from the look in his eyes. You can see his eyes shine, you can even feel that his eyes smile when he smile to you. Don’t ignore that feeling. It’s a strong sign that you both are in love.
Now that you know what he feels about you, you can move forward with no doubt to show your affection.
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Thinking of Tying The Knot? 5 Tips To Make Sure You Stay Together
Did you know that love does NOT conquer all?
You see, often people get married with the idea that their “chemistry” or undying love for each other will keep them together forever.
However, with almost 50% of marriages ending in divorce these days, it’s obvious that this isn’t the case. Therefore, it pays to know a few little secrets before getting married.
Here are 5 tips that help keep couples together long after tying the knot:
Tip #1 - Continue dating
Over the years, people often drift apart or relationships and marriages become stale because couples fail to do new and special things together. That's why going on new and refreshing dates is so important. In fact, there is something about “dating” that creates a sense of magic in a relationship and can even bring relationships out of a rut. While on a date, you also put more effort into your appearance, have more uninterrupted time to communicate on a deeper level and are naturally drawn closer together. Stuck for ideas? Spend the day at the aquarium, zoo, museum, carnival, bookstore, beach or park.
Tip #2 – Delay is often better
It’s a well-documented statistic that couples who have dated for a year or longer before marriage have a significantly lower rate of divorce than those who married after a short dating period. A year of dating gives time for many emotions to surface and many character traits to be discovered. You may adore someone in the spring, but despise him or her in the winter. Asking someone for his or her hand in marriage on the third date isn't romantic. It's gambling.
Tip #3 – Always express your love
Oftentimes, as a relationship matures, partners tend to stop praising each other because they 'assume' their partner already knows what they're thinking. When in reality, a day should never go by without you praising your partner. Compliment them on their cooking, reaffirm that they're the greatest person in the world or tell them they’re a wonderful role model. If you want to be loved and romanced by your sweetheart, love and romance them first. When they're feeling loved, it is much easier to love in return. Are you a super supporter of what your mate does and says? So do you cheer them on and praise them constantly? Or do they constantly hear boos or silence?
Tip #4 – Take time to understand your partner
Couples with the most problems are often the ones that say, "I just don't understand him/her." So let me ask you: How knowledgeable are you about your mate's profession or the degree they are pursuing? Do you know anything about his or her family heritage? Are you able to have a meaningful conversation about her cross-stitch hobby or his interest in rugby? If you are a man, do you fully understand what women experience during PMS or menopause? You don't need to be identical, but make an effort to learn about the things that interest your partner in life and you'll grow closer as a result.
Tip #5 - Answer the BIG questions
Does your partner want kids? Do you both want careers? Do they have a history of spending their way into debt? Do they go to church?
In my opinion, the biggest reason almost half of marriages end in divorce is because couples fail to ask each other the right questions BEFORE they get married. I guess people think they'll be able to change their spouses after marriage and everything will be better. Wrong. If you fail to sit down and discuss finances, religion, sex, housing, your future, and other topics in great detail, you could end up with nothing but argument after argument for the rest of your days.
In the end, if you both have completely different views, desires and goals in life, there’s no guarantee that chemistry or "I love you’s" will help you stay together. Make it your utmost priority to understand each other 'inside-out' BEFORE you take that walk down the aisle.
About the author:
Michael Webb is the author of “1000 Questions For Couples" the most comprehensive book of questions that all couples should ask before getting married. Covering lovemaking, religion, careers, money, children & raising them, household work, personalities, the future and much much more. To learn more, visit: 1000 Questions For Couples
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Double Dating, Why Not?
Double dating is a fun way to go out and have a good time with your significant other. It gives your date the opportunity to meet your friends and it also can provide a comfortable experience for somebody who might be a little nervous to go out on a one-on-one date yet.
Double dating is an excellent idea if you need to meet somebody new and you aren’t comfortable with being alone with them yet. You can invite a couple you know to come along . This allows for you to be around people you are comfortable with while you're getting to know your date. Some people like to go on a double date first so they are not so nervous on the first date.
Going on a double date also gives your date the opportunity to get to know you through your friends. It might be a good idea to invite a couple that will say lovely things about you if you like your date and you need to see them again. Your date can get the idea with the type of person you're by who you're hanging out with and the things they say about you. It is a good way to get another perspective on the person you're going out with or if you need your date to know more about you. In addition, double dating provides an excellent way for you or your date to see how both of you interact with your friends and receive a different perspective.
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How to get appreciation from others
- While sharing an important concept, somebody would finish the sentence for you.
- When talking about what happened on the weekend, somebody would butt in and tell a similar story.
- Your boss would cut you short while you are still explaining your side.
- You ask your child about his day in school and he runs straight to his room.
- You wanted to discuss something with your spouse but he is busy watching TV
Thursday, August 13, 2009
5 Tips For an Amazing Relationship
The Ability to Be Alone is Key to Having a Good Relationship
How to Tell If Someone is Lying By Looking at Their Eye Patterns
How to Tell If Someone is Lying By Looking at Their Eye Patterns By Drew Lilley
Are you being lied to? Are you being cheated on? You can put all of that to an end just by taking the time to learn this pivotal information about eye patterns. NLP research has proven that every direction your eyes look while your speaking, or being spoken to are being dictated by the subconscious mind. You can use this information to know how to tell if someone is lying.
Many people make the common mistake of accusing people of being liars solely based on the fact that they are not making eye contact with them. This could be true, but most likely is not. "If a person does not maintain eye contact while you are talking to them, they are lying." This is a myth that's been around for a while, and should be debunked. Their could actually be several reasons a person does not maintain eye contact. For example, they have social disabilities, or they can just be nervous. Anyways, here is what all the eye patterns mean.
To the right- When a persons eyes shift to the right, they are constructing an auditory thought. (your left)
Up and to the left- visually remembered image (your right)
Up and to the right- visually constructed image (your left)
To the left- auditory memory
Down and to the right- creating a feeling or sensory impression.
Down and to the left- a person will look this way when they "talk to themselves"
You can use this information to help you catch a liar because typically if someone looks to the right, they are creating a lie, and if they are looking to the left, they are remembering something. While someone is telling a story, they will usually look up and to the left, or up and to the right. Try these eye patterns yourselves, by testing them on your peers, friends, or family! All you have to do is create some questions. For example. If i wanted to test the eye pattern "up and to the right" you could devise a question like this: "Can you imagine a cow with a pigs head?" This forces them to visually construct an image in their head.
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Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Can We Talk?
Yes, if you've ever in your life seen a Joan Rivers routine, you've certainly heard "Can we talk?" The question I'd like to ask the midlife world today is, "OK . . . can we???"
Last Thursday night's guest on my internet radio program was relationship expert, Kathleen Sims, and she talked about the sorts of things that go to make up a successful relationship, especially at midlife. She was very willing to go beyond the kinds of hype that other relationship gurus seem to be using (the kind of promotion that says, "We guarantee that if you follow our easy 3-step program, your relationship will achieve instant perfection!"). We talked about how, as relationships mature, the challenges actually deepen.
In this context, she revealed a startling bit of personal experience: as part of the mentoring that she provides to couples, she has several times offered workshops on communication. Remarkably, she has had little success convincing people to attend. Both she and I have had similar experiences: in general, people seems reluctant to handle the basic fundamental things that are required to create the life that they want. This can be a devastating deficiency at midlife: failing to take care of yourself properly can catapult you into a crisis situation that has the potential to destroy your career, your relationship(s) and/or your health unnecessarily. So . . . can we talk?
Communication forms the very essence of any relationship. Of course we'll have many relatives (face it: we're stuck with them) in our lives, but that doesn't mean that we will have a relationship with them. They're like many of the items in our safe deposit box: we have to keep them, but we don't need to deal with them. Some people (falsely) assume that, just because you're married to someone, you necessarily have a relationship with him or her. When imagining that you have a relationship with someone else, it's as though you imagine, in Kathleen's inspired terms, that birth or marriage or civil union has merged the two of you into a sort of conglomerate. If you imagine yourself as a circle and your relationship-partner (by birth or in law) as a second circle, you may think that your relationship causes the circles to merge. I have to agree with Kathleen that, in fact, they do not. Instead, there's a third circle that represents your relationship, and it 'belongs' to neither one of you, but to both of you.
That third circle that we call 'relationship' is not natural, it's created and sustained by the decisions and actions that both of you take. Those decisions and actions determine whether or not there will be communication. Here's the simple 'bottom line': if there's no communication, there's no relationship regardless whether you're parent-child, siblings, life partners, or just friends. You can't be in a relationship by default. You're either working at it (by continually learning to communicate and practicing what you've learned), or it doesn't exist at all. You don't have to have a court order to 'divorce' your husband, wife, partner, father, mother, sibling, partner, friend; all you need to do to have an effective divorce is to stop talking about what's really important to you.
As usual in this midlife 'game', men have a tougher time at this than women do, and in both directions: we haven't been raised to share our deeper thoughts and feelings, nor have we been taught the skills of active, empathetic listening. We too often replace real understanding and empathy - real communication - with the 'right answers': "Yes, dear," or "OK," or "Yup . . . understood." There are so many nice and agreeable responses that we men can make that feign listening. We use them in our work situations all the time. They're empathy surrogates: they're meant to make it appear that we're doing what we know we're not: listening. We know the difference. We man know when we're really telling you the truth; and very often it scares us to death!
Midlife can't be successfully navigated without fully engaging in the never-ending struggle to learn to communicate more effectively. It means learning to tell you who I am and what's going on with me. It also means listening to you at a level that goes far beyond your words: recognizing that, for example, when you're upset, it's about you and not about me. It's a life-long task to learn to extract the meaning from the words, especially when that meaning has little to do with what the words mean. The task very often involves listening with the heart and blocking out the head - particularly in very intimate relationships.
You may be saying, "I don't need to learn how to communicate! After all, I've been doing it since before I learned to talk!" Or do you? Too often, our fear and our pride keep us away from working on the 'basics', as though learning to communicate with others was like learning to feed yourself: once you've got it, you've got it. That attitude leaves many people foundering with a childish skill level in adult situations. We feel like those we most need to have a relationship with "just don't understand us," whereas it's most often we who are unable to tell them what we need or even what's going on with us. People who love us very often don't understand because we're incapable of telling telling them what they need to know. In relationships, as in every other facet of life - particularly in the midlife transition - it's much easier for us to blame others for not 'getting' us than it is for us to do the hard work necessary to learn how to tell them what we need for them to know.
Midlife severely affects three areas of your life: 1) your career, 2) your relationships, and 3) your health and well-being. If any one of those areas isn't working for you right now, you need to take a deeper look at yourself. Pointing fingers at others will do nothing to get you out of whatever situation you find yourself in. You alone are responsible for your relationships. What do you need to do - to change - to make these things work. Dumping them should be a resort taken only when it makes no sense to continue (usually because the other person in the relationship has decided not to do the work to maintain his or her part of the relationship).
One final note about relationships: don't imagine that having a deep and vital relationship means that things will always go smoothly between you. They won't. Growth only comes from meeting (and grappling with) challenges and obstacles. A 'relationship' that has no friction or disagreements is most often that way because it lacks real intimacy. In fact, I'd be willing to go out on a limb here and say that the more vital and intimate a relationship is, the more challenging the struggles that ensue. Likewise, the more difficult the midlife transition from adulthood to maturity proves to be, the richer and fuller the maturity will become. Can we talk? Hang in there: don't quit before the miracle happens!
H. Les Brown, MA, CFCC
ProActivation® Coaching
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Earn His Love by Being His Best Friend
Say I Love You - wikiHow
How to Say I Love You
from wikiHow - The How to Manual That You Can Edit Although many people use this powerful phrase loosely, there are times when you want to say "I love you" in a meaningful way. Whether you're professing your love to a romantic partner or expressing it to a relative or friend, it can be difficult to convey how much they really mean to you. But by keeping the following suggestions in mind, hopefully your love will not only be understood, but it will also be welcomed and returned.Steps
Define love The sincerity of the phrase is strengthened by knowing what love is, and what loving someone means to you. Determine the difference between love, infatuation and lust, and make sure it's genuine love that you feel for this person.- Make it special. For many people, dropping the "I" allows the sentiment to be expressed casually, such as before separating (e.g. "Time to go. Bye! Love you!"). Using the full phrase, however, can be reserved for more intimate moments, especially during a special event, such as when a child is just born, or even to reassure someone when bad news has been received or during moments of cherished silence, like after a kiss.
- Make eye contact. If you love this person, hopefully you feel comfortable enough to gaze into their eyes when you express your feelings. Making eye contact shows sincerity and communicates trust.
- Say it at an appropriate tone. If you're at home and there's not much background noise, keep your volume low; don't whisper unless you bring your lips to their ear, which can also be a very intimate way to express your love. If you want to tell them how you feel in public, it's up to you whether you want to pull the person aside, or say it in front of friends or even strangers. It depends on your loved one's personality, and your own personality. Some will find it terribly romantic to be told they're loved across a room full of people; others may find it mortifying.
- Smile. It can be nerve-wracking to tell someone that you love him or her, only to wait anxiously for their response--especially if it's the first time either of you have verbally expressed love. The best way to overcome this fear is to not expect the phrase in return. Your intention can be to tell the person how you feel, with the hope of making them happy and showing them that they are valued. Remember that unconditional love means not demanding anything in return. So smile, and perhaps give your loved one a hug. If they love you, too, they'll say it in their own way and in their own time.
- Be creative. Say it in different languages. Write it into a poem or even a haiku. If you want to be romantic, spell it out with rose petals on his or her bedroom floor. Write it in code, like a Vigènere cipher. Say it in little ways, like post-it notes in unexpected places, and express it in every way you can.
- Love. Don't just say it, do it. Love is not just a feeling; it's an action. Saying it without showing it is, in a way, a lie. Express your love in action as well as in words.
- Holding someone's hand as you tell them you love them can also communicate sincerity and trust, but it can also convey a sense of subterfuge, which at a glance may suffice but will quickly be sniffed out by someone with a careful eye for lies; ergo, do not hold hands if you don't mean it.
- Love is expressed differently by everyone. Be understanding and look for your partner's ways of expressing it to you; they may not be the same as what you do or what you want them to do, but in turn you may not be doing the things they want and they should look for your way.
- Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all. If your interest is not in the other person, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, rather than not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
- If love is unrequited, you need to be understanding and be caring towards the feelings of the object of your desire. At least they now know how you feel. It is not good to bottle up your feelings.
- Saying "I love you" in the heat of passion for the first time might not be a good idea, as the person may question the sincerity of your pledge. Follow them up with actions of kindness.
- The words "I love you" can lose their meaning in a relationship if not paired with action.
- And do NOT say it too much in a day. The one thing people can get annoyed with or lose its meaning is saying it too much. Some one says i love you and if it makes you think of how much they really do, then thats good and healthy. If its like a casual thing learn to spice it up and/or be patient
Monday, August 10, 2009
Homemade Gift Ideas For a Boyfriend - 4 Fascinating Options
Trouble Making a Commitment?
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